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What Is The Difference Between Men And Women?

9 out of every 10men asked will respond with the in the lines of “Men are logical, women are emotional”. I can bet even you reading this, thinks in the same light.

While you’re right. What you fail to know is that women are as logical and rational as men. And men are no less emotional. How they respond to situations is what differentiates them.

So what really differentiate the male and female?

Take, for instance, a friend’s father or mother or someone close to them dies, a man will try to find a solution and see how his friend is OK. But a woman will step into the friend’s shoes to feel what the friend is passing through. This is why she’s going to cry and the man wouldn’t.

Every woman responds to certain situations or conditions using a logical mechanism. This logical mechanism is the reason why a woman can perceive deceit, this is why she can tell something fishy is about you when you’re just meeting her. This is why she can just tell how nervous and less confident a man is when he tries to approach no matter the frame the man wears to mask it.

This logical mechanism is responsible for her survival through hard conditioning.

So, while a man is after the physical appearance of a woman, she’s is stepping into the aura the man carries. And when you hear her say “something isn’t right about that guy.” You wonder how she can tell something is wrong with a person she barely knows.

Two days ago, I was scrolling through my timeline and saw the video of a man explaining the difference between the male and the female brain. He was talking about how the parts of the female brain are connected and the male’s distinct and well separated. What this man was trying to illustrate is the connectivity of their brains.

This connectivity is the reason a woman wouldn’t be aroused by the picture of d!ck but will be aroused seeing the picture of a couple cuddling or kissing.

A woman feels every part of her brain. This is why a woman does so well even far better than a man when she chooses anything and pursues it. This is why she experiences mood swings and you start to question. “How can someone who was so happy a min ago turn out to be this bitchy?” This is why she can be seeing two men and thinks she’s in love with the both of them.

Whatever is thrown at a woman she responds to it in two ways. Understanding how she responds gives you the right tools the loving her the right way. If you don’t know and that understand these responses, you’ll have little to no success with women.

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The “Just Got Dumped” GUIDE

WARNING: What you are about to read are facts proven to work every single time. Hence, I don’t want anyone who intends to use them to harm women to have access to them. If your intentions are to harm or hurt or break the heart of women, please STOP reading. However, if you want to attract the woman of your dreams and keep her attracted to you, then continue reading.

At one point or another, everybody ends up getting dumped or a break up for one reason or another, even Brad Pitt.

 

You know him huh?

Yes, that’s him. The sexy and charming man got dumped.

So there’s absolutely no problem with that. The woman just didn’t want to be with you anymore. Perhaps she only wanted the sex and it got boring or maybe she is looking for something more serious. Nobody is 100% compatible with each other and differences are going to occur and relationships will terminate. A lot of “Soulmate” or “the one” Myth flying around. There are many the one for everyone.

That’s story for another day.

But for today, I have a story for you. Once upon a time (please this is not fiction), one of my friends met a charming girl with massive butts. Sexy and hot as hell. Yeah, I mean it. Things were going great for the next 6 months and all of a sudden things changed. My friend was in a concert when he received an SMS from his charming girlfriend. She wanted a break up (I sh!t you not fellas).

My friend just read the message and ignored it. He was strong enough to go about his purpose just like I taught him. He made sure he completed what he was out there for and for the next 2 days, he didn’t flip, he didn’t reply nor texts her to ask what the problem. He completely acted aloof. On the 3rd day, the girl called and started pleading. That’s the grip a strong man can have over a woman.

Thing is, some of you guys just can’t handle being dumped by a woman and you feel like you absolutely NEED to get your ex-girlfriend back, or at least make them fall in love with you again, for your own self-validation. I really don’t understand why you’d want to seek validation from a woman.

Anyways, so what exactly do you need to do after a woman breaks up with you?

Should you offer to be friends? HELL NO. that’s obviously not what you want

Should you beg her to get together with you? HELL NO. Do this and I will find you and cut off your P!n!s. Just kidding. But seriously man, DON’T DO IT.

What if you think she is the woman you were destined to be with? – If she is so meant to be with you, she will come back sometime in the future and the ball will be in your court. I hope you know what to do when such a day comes?

What if she was a virgin and you are afraid other guys will take her virginity? – Oh well. Nothing you can do about it. She doesn’t feel you anymore so get that into your head!

ONCE a woman dumps you, she thought about it 100 times before she did it. She played it over and over in her head. Most likely she has another guy waiting up in line. Even more often, they usually have a man who is already sleeping with them and taking care of all their needs.

Yes, and she has been telling you but you were not just listening. She just used the notorious breakup protocol on you (The breakup protocol is a secret girls’ code that chicks activate when they are about to dump a guy) and you didn’t even notice because you were so wrapped up in your feelings for her. But a Man who has gone through the entry level the Game Mastery System just like my friend can easily decode every of her secret language and every move and turn things around FAST.

Once it is over, it is simply OVER.

Do not speak to her anymore.

Do not maintain contact with her anymore.

Do not have her on your friends’ list on facebook anymore and don’t chat with her on BBM or keep her on BBM.

Here are 5 rules:

1) Delete her phone number.

2) Delete her BBM.

3) Delete her facebook.

4) FORGET about all the websites she goes to and don’t stalk her on the internet or worse, in real life.

5) Do not initiate contact. Either on Instagram, internet, real life or over the phone.

Break any of those rules and you have lost the game. Yes, you just got defeated, bro.

Let me explain to you the way women’s minds work.

After a woman breaks up with a man, she is UNSURE about her decision (I know you don’t know this. Now you know). Women are very uncertain creatures. Women do not trust themselves. Very few women are extremely self-confident and even those will doubt their decisions a lot of the time.

When growing up, a lot of these women looked up to their fathers to make sure they made the right decisions. Daddy would approve or daddy would disapprove. And that is how they knew they made the right or wrong decision. But, they can’t really talk to DADDY about their decisions with men.

So what happens?

When they break up with you, they judge based on YOUR REACTION whether or not they made the right choice by dumping you.

If you CRY, BEG HER BACK, WANT TO BE FRIENDS, and proceed to call her and give her attention… SHE KNOWS SHE DID THE RIGHT CHOICE. This is what 97% of guys do. The other 3% know how attraction work and you can find them in the Game Mastery System.

If you smile, walk away and don’t say a word – then she will not know how to handle it. In a few weeks, she will start to DOUBT she made the right decision. Anxiety is going to go through her every time she thinks about you. After a while, she will start to think of you every day. Then it will become every few hours. Then it will become every few minutes.

Eventually, she will no longer know how to handle it and the curiosity and anxiety will drive her wild.

She will try to call you or email you or send a text.

If you pick up the phone and speak to her, you LOST.

If you answer her email, you LOST.

If she texts you and you reply back immediately, you lost. I mean it man, DON’T DO IT!

Once she INITIATES CONTACT with you, if you are too easy to get a hold of, she knows you are easy. The whole challenge would be lost. (You’ve been too easy, Now it’s time to be a challenge)

After she calls you once or twice, she will start to go crazy, even more.

You may not believe this happens but it really does.

Her anxiety will go through the roof and she won’t be able to sleep at night. Believe me. Especially if you put up a picture on your facebook with yourself and another girl holding hands or showing any type of affection or just a simple Facebook status showing you’re having fun. It will get her insane. She will start to think you found your dream woman and she is forgotten. This will drive her crazy.

Imagine her anxiety level like an EMPTY GLASS.

Once she dumps you, she usually has a little bit of anxiety. If you start to cry and blow up her phone, she TRUSTS HER DECISION and she feels no anxiety towards it. She looks at you and you are done.

The DEAL IS SEALED.

However, if on the other hand, you don’t cry and you walk away with a big smile, she will wonder what happened. Give it a week, and that “glass” will start to fill up. Her anxiety level is going to rise.

Then she will try to call you. You don’t answer. Unconsciously she starts to think you are better than she is and she lost a good thing. Her anxiety and fear of loss go through the roof.

When she sees you with another woman, jealousy emotions will kick in and she will lose her mind.

She WILL and I repeat. SHE WILL GO THROUGH A CRISIS PHASE.

When that glass gets all the way full and she can’t handle her anxiety anymore, she will do something insane.

This can be:

– call your phone 287 times in 12 minutes

– leave an email saying she will kill herself

– tell you she really needs your help and she can’t live without you

– say she needs you and wants you

– She tells you she loves and misses you

What do you do when she does this?

You go to the liquor store, buy yourself a whiskey, sit on the couch, SIP your drink, savour the moment and you do NOTHING.

You let that anxiety stay at a peak.

Her anxiety will be overwhelming to her and she will start to slowly build up other emotions toward you.

When a woman is given EXTREMELY strong emotions from a man, like ANXIETY or HAPPINESS or FEAR, or any other, she will begin to think she is in LOVE WITH HIM.

Yes.

You read that right. You will make her feel high anxiety levels and she will start to think she is in love with you after a while.

Isn’t that the dumbest thing you’ve ever heard? But that is the way the human mind works.

You let her stay at that high peaked anxiety.

She can call you and beg to get back together, don’t do it YET.

Let her beg (remember she said she doesn’t want anymore?). Let her grovel. Don’t even pick up the phone or talk to her. Let her feel that anxiety. Every second you hold out more, she will fall in love a bit more with you and her feelings will intensify towards you.

If you dated a girl for 1 year, maybe let her grovel and beg for a month or 2.

If you dated her 3 months, let her grovel and beg for 3 weeks or so. Don’t give yourself away too fast though, use some judgment.

When she will come back, if you want to start a relationship with her, go ahead.

I DO NOT RECOMMEND TRYING TO START A RELATIONSHIP THOUGH.

But again, the ball is in your court.

The purpose of this guide was to teach you how to be a man and handle yourself like a man would.

And that is how you handle getting dumped.

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Why Girls Like Bad Boys

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This is a very popular subject. 99.9% of men are aware women are attracted to bad boys, they just can’t resist them but really don’t know why. They think they can use logical reasoning to make women see why they shouldn’t fall in love with the bad boys.
100% of women are aware they can’t resist the bad boys even though they are not what they want.
Well in this article you’re going to find out exactly why women find bad boys attractive and irresistible.

If you’re a movie fanatic, you must have come across guys like Brad Pitt, James Dean, Daniel Craig popularly known as James Bond to Just name a few. Oh, I should add Kanye West; If you don’t know the others, you should know this Hollywood’s star.
If you look closely into the lives of these men, you’ll notice these guys have similar traits. Traits of the bad boy.

Research has revealed that these men possess the Dark Triad personality traits of narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellism. The hallmarks of narcissism include dominance, a sense of entitlement, and a grandiose self-view. They possess the willingness and ability to compete with one’s own sex and to repel mates shortly after intercourse.

Society in general and the media in particular LOVE to paint the Bad Boy as the black hole of masculinity. That is to say, that nothing can escape them… no woman can resist their magnetism, no Nice Guy is nice enough to keep a woman away from their pull.
So what exactly are the traits possessed by these bad boys women find irresistible?

1. Bad boys keep it real
Unlike nice guys who want to make sure they do everything right even to their detriment to make sure a woman is satisfied. Bad boys are blunt and are not afraid to cause some turbulence and frustration in a woman’s life.

2. Boundaries: 
Bad boys set boundaries, they wouldn’t give a woman the opportunity to walk all over them. They just know how to put a woman in her place without mixing their words or shading their actions.

3. Approval Seeking:
Unlike Nice guys who constantly seek approval and be told how much they are loved, the bad boy doesn’t care as he knows he’s awesome and there are tons of other women who want him. He cares about himself more than any other person.

4. Challenge:
Another reason why bad boys are so appealing is simple: they’re more of a challenge than a lot of nicer guys. Part of what makes the difference between sexual attraction and platonic friendship is behaviour. A guy with many female friends may well be a good guy with lots to recommend to him, but he’s missing that spark or oomph that catches people’s attention. More often than not, they tend to be agreeable and eager to please… almost too eager in some cases. Once again, the bad boy cares more about himself

5. Mystery:
Bad boys are mysterious. They just can’t be predicted which is exciting to women. Nice guys are predictable which is boring. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge equals “women prefer a bad boy.” They always bring the fun and excitement.

6. Bad Boys are Charming:

Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colours, the woman has fallen hard and has a tough time letting go. They just know how to put a woman on a roller coaster.

7. Some women have low self-esteem:

Women don’t feel comfortable with a man who treats them better than they treat themselves (They feel such a man is too genuine to be real). So, the bad boy is simply reinforces their negative belief. A nice guy only treats her in a way she’s not familiar with and that feels uncomfortable.

8. Women just want to be bleeped:

Women sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and get the job done under the sheets. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.

9. Hormones:

Women are genetically programmed to seek the strongest of males to mate with and continue procreation. Hence are drawn to the masculinity of the bad boy. He gives her the vibes that she will be protected. Bad boys believe their genes are so strong that they aren’t afraid of losing a woman because of bad behaviour. Nice guys’ fear of losing their woman sends the exact opposite message.

10. Commitment:
If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment and too soon and that’s scary to a woman.

11. Women like to feel needed:

Nice guys don’t usually need “to be fixed.” Bad boys usually do, so they become a “project.” Some women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.

12. Bad boys go for what they want without hesitation:

Stop me if you’ve heard this one before: a shy nice guy has a crush on an attractive woman. He spends weeks trying to tell if she likes him back. Then, after days of building up his courage, he makes his move.

That, of course, is when he discovers that she’s dating someone else. The problem for so many nice guys is that they are afraid of rejection. They refuse to make an approach unless they are 110% sure that they’ll succeed. They will dress it up in any number of excuses. They want to wait until the moment’s right, they don’t want to make it weird. But it all comes down to the same problem: they don’t want to take the risk of getting hurt from rejection.

There you have it guys, this is why women date the nice guys and sleep with the bad boys(flings). Women know they can’t have long-term relationships with the bad boy as it always leads or ends with heartbreaks and hurt. This is why they are now in search of the unicorns. Only 3% of the male population are unicorns. Those men who have been able to find the balance between the Nice Guy and The Bad Boy. In my group (Relationship and Dating matters with Jonathan Melody), I teach guys how to become a Unicorns and Not being seen or labelled a scum. Yet still, possess the bad boy traits. You can search on facebook to join others.

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The Art of Conversations: Build Instant Connection With Women

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Building a rapport with women is the second stage in the attraction level and most men find it difficult to move past it, they just hit a dead zone. Just like the teller machine when it no longer has any cash to dispense, leaving the woman frustrated. Same happens when you can’t hold a conversation with a woman. But that would be a thing of the past once you’re able to read through this article.

If you've ever watched Blind Date, I'm sure you've seen or experienced these two types of dates: 

Date A: Conversation goes well. Guy and girl are talking and no awkward silences. These are usually the ones where both say they want a 2nd date 

Date B: Conversation doesn't go well. Guy and girl talk a little, but it's just random questions here and there and full of awkward silences. These dates don't usually lead to a 2nd. The girl always says she didn't feel they made any type of connection. 

If you're out with a girl, she needs to feel that you and her are connected on a personal level. This connection leads to attraction or builds on it. 

But most guys can't carry a conversation. They have no idea what to say, they ask a question, the girl answers, then they sit there looking around like a broken alarm clock because they ran out of questions. The girl thinks the guy is boring, dull, and unable to handle the simplest of tasks. 

Girls love to talk, but they will toss you aside if you can't keep them interested with a basic conversation. 

If you have being able to intrigue the lady, it’s time to create a rapport, as well as sustain it. Every human loves the feeling of importance, we want to talk about ourselves, the battles we have won, the heights we have attained and it’s no different when it comes to keeping a rapport with a woman.



You need to understand that every woman loves to talk about herself and loves stories. You don’t have to be super smart to get a conversation going with a woman if you can understand these two things and how to apply them. Please, don’t go out there and start throwing questions upon questions on her as she will get pissed. No woman wants to feel as though she’s being interrogated. However, you only need to apply a twist to this. 

Truth is, having a girl talk about herself by asking questions is one of the best ways to maintain your mystery. 80-90% of our communication is done non-verbally. Your body language is extremely important because it says more than you think. When you're talking to a girl, keep eye contact. Don't sit there staring at her chest or looking around the room at other people. Don't look like someone with a short attention span. 

Tone is also very important. How you say something is more important than what you actually say. 

Words, tone and body language make up a conversation. But words are the least of the 3. Keep in mind tone and body language will actually deliver what you're saying. 

You need to know that you’re responsible for the emotions you project onto a woman and are in total control of every rapport. This is why the cube game which I talked about in my group (relationship and dating matters with Jonathan melody) is the fastest way to create an instant connection and build up emotions in her.

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Take a genuine interest in what she's saying. Don't try to fake it. When she tells you she spent 3 months in Abuja during her summer vacation, don't say, "That's cool." That's a big thing. Ask her about it. What did she like about the place? Where in Abuja did she spend her time? What differences are there between Abuja and Lagos (assuming that's her permanent place residence)? You could talk to her for hours just about her trip. 

Ok, now let's get into some techniques and tips for holding or initiating conversation. 

1. Always be aware of your surroundings! 

Some of the best conversation starters are based on what's going on around you. Maybe something funny happened, maybe there's a guy that looks like Hanks Anuku. Maybe the girl dropped her cell phone in water. Whatever is going on around you, learn to use it to your advantage. 

Ways to practice this: 

When you go out, look for things happening to people or in your surroundings. Then, approach anyone (guy or girl) and talk to him or her about it. Make it seem smooth and if you can, funny. Then, let that lead to more conversation. This is probably the best way to do a Cold Approach(an approach to someone you've never met).

2. Use open-ended questions

It’s no news at this point that women love talking, especially about themselves. Asking a woman questions about herself will help you gather enough information to increase her attraction level for you through seduction.

Don't come up sounding like a robot configured to ask questions and risk turning her off. 

Be genuinely interested in what she tells you and mirror her expressions and gestures and speech patterns but don’t be obvious about it.



See these conversations below;



I want to assume you have passed the intrigue stage of getting her interested


You: what do you do for fun?

Her: reading and playing chess

You: Do you always play chess?

Her: Yes

You: That’s Nice

Her: OK



Now I want to go through that same conversation with a little twist to it.



You: So tell me, what do you do for fun?

Her: Reading and playing chess

You: that sounds awesome! You must be a walking library and a goddess of chess. Played in a championship?

Her: Hahaha, you’re funny. I always wanted to but time and my job wouldn’t allow me. I work in a bank as a marketing officer and that takes a chunk out of my time. Do you do anything for fun?

You: Yes I do and that’s talking to you(she’s going to blush at this) and what feelings exactly do you derive from playing chess?

Her: Playing chess relaxes my nerves and turns on my thinking cap. If you understand what I mean?

You: Hell no I don't! Tell me, what do you me by thinking cap?


Can you see the direction of the two conversations? You act like you’re interested. Because when you do, she will tell you more without asking. And the cube game will make her appear like an open book and you get to read into her desires and needs.


Tip: The harder a woman works on building rapport with you, the more you’re going to be worth to her



3. Listen to Her! 

I'm sure you've all heard women complain about guys that don't listen. If you ask the girl the proper questions and just sit back and listen, she'll tell you exactly how to seduce her. 

She'll tell you what she looks for, what she likes, and what she doesn't like. You guide the conversation then use this so you know what she wants to hear and how she wants to hear it. If any of you have ever done sales, you'll know what I'm talking about. Always let the customer talk first and they'll tell you what they want to hear. (The cube method is the fastest way to achieve this without her even knowing)


Girls like guys who can keep them interested. Try to keep the conversation different. Take risks. Talk to her about stuff other guys usually wouldn't; you'll stick in her mind. Watch the news so you know what's going on in the world. You can use that to get opinions out of her if you need something to talk about. 

One more technique, which is a little more advanced, is using statements instead of questions. This isn't to carry a conversation, it's just a technique you can use to change things up a bit and display a lot of confidence. 

Are you tired of meeting weird guys? 
=> You must be tired of meeting weird guys. 

What school did you go to? 
=> So tell me what school did you graduate from 

How was your day? 
=> Tell me about your day 

They usually start with 

"So...", "Then..." 
"You must..." 
"You could..." 
"It must be..." 

Statements they take a position and a risk.Saying, "I'm not interested in a long-term relationship right now" is taking a risk. 

Making these statements shows her your courage and confidence instead of being a guy who sits back and asks safe questions. It also gives you more control because you're telling her to tell you something, not asking her nicely (but stating it isn't rude either). This is where a little bit of negging when used with the cube game works magic. She'll be telling you how much fun she had at the end of the date or how you get to know so much about her which instantly increases your value in her eyes and shoots her attraction for you up.

The Cube game is something of a mystery. It is the Holy Grail in getting women drawn to you instantly. But few men know about it and how to use it. 

You don't need Q-Cards to keep a conversation going or building a connection. Just go with what she says and build on it. It's as easy as that.

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Escape The Friend Zone

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Guys, I am sure this has happened to you before,

Sometimes you meet an amazingly gorgeous woman who you just connect with, you are blown away by her personality, intelligence, appearance and can’t help thinking about how a life with her would look like.

You were able to strike a rapport with her and got her phone number and you are now in contact. Then you went on the first date, and then the second date, maybe even a third date and you can see yourself dating her and you want her to be your girlfriend. So you decide, “today I am going to ask her out”
The D-day comes and you make your intention known to her. You tell her she’s the most amazing thing that has happened to you and you want her to be your girlfriend.

But, she says NO.

Her reasons? She not ready yet. Or she says she has a boyfriend already. Worse, she may say, she sees you as just a friend and she’d prefer you guys just stay friends.

But that’s not all. After that day, she goes cold, she no longer responds with the same enthusiasm as she did at the start, she starts giving you some wishy-washy reasons why she doesn’t return your calls and why she can’t spend time with you.
You become frustrated, asking yourself what exactly you did wrong. 

At this point, two things happen to a lot of guys who face this issue with the women they like and are interested in dating.

1. You may also become cold towards her. 

Then she sees you as a jealous jerk, someone who can’t take rejection and be mature about it. If you do this, you go further down the ladder of appropriate boyfriends, and she believes her decision was the right one.

Only one person loses out here. You.

2. You take it “as a man” and continue being friends with her. 

She is glad you didn’t end your relationship with her, but you still get put down the ladder of an appropriate boyfriend and because now you’re “just a friend”, she basically treats you as one of her fellow girls. 

She will date other boys but not you because women do not date their friends. She will bring her boyfriend problems to you to solve. And the truth is, you will hate every single minute of it but you can’t complain because hey, you’re just a friend.

You really do not want to be in any of the two scenarios above. What you want is for the woman you’re interested in to also be interested in you and see you as the sort of man they would be willing to date.

In this article, I’m going to tell you why women who were hot and aggressive at the beginning of a relationship go cold and eventually pull away. And how you can turn the tables around and get her to start chasing you again.

Science has proven it time and time again that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear, the moment a woman gets a clear hold of all that there is to you (becoming a plain book), you start losing your value in her eyes and her attraction for you starts going down. 

And when this starts happening you because you don’t understand how attraction works the first thing you think, you have to do is something to get her attraction back up. 

For many guys, what they do first is they start begging her to change her mind. And when she doesn’t they beg some more, and then some more, even asking her friends to plead on their behalf. The pressure becomes too much and she becomes afraid and unsure of how to respond.

Now here’s the thing, when you beg a woman to change her mind, you have psychologically given her power over you. You have put yourself below her, and as far as dating is concerned, that’s not a good thing. 

Here’s why.

Women prefer men who are in charge, not wimpy men who beg and plead with them. This only shows you don’t value yourself or know your worth. 

A woman wants a man she can be comfortable with, one who has control over his emotions, who is a challenge, a man who knows what he wants and goes for it. If a woman sees you as weak, and begging to her is a weak behaviour, she will never date a weak man. Period.

Another thing some guys do is, they try to do too much for the girl. This type of attitude is called “The illusion of action”.
You think you have to do something to get her to like you more and that the more you do, the more she will like you. That is bullshit! 

When a woman who was initially aggressive starts taking steps back, it shows you’re pursuing her too much, you’re forcing yourself on her and it’s choking her. You’re becoming too needy. She wants some air, so she tries to get some space. And the more you pursue her, thinking if you don’t, you’d lose her, she backs off making it more likely you might just eventually lose her.
You must understand that men and women respond to things differently and in the issues of love and relationships, women want you to take it slow but because men are visual, we want to get it all to a conclusion quickly. Hence, tend to come on too aggressive, asking for a relationship too soon.

Well, you see my friend, women are emotional beings and their actions are almost always different from what they say. That’s why a woman tells you when she breaks up with you or rejects your advances, “It’s not about you, it’s me” or “You’re not the problem but me”. 

A man hears these words and they sound gibberish to him. But that’s because you really do not understand how to deal with these situations when they happen to you.

What do you do to stay in control when you meet and like a woman and want to date her? What do you do to make sure you don’t enter the dreaded “friend zone” or if you’re already in it, to get out and turn things around? 

Don’t ask your female friends, they won’t tell you the truth because they don’t want to hurt your ego. Your guys can’t provide you good advice because they are also clueless (their relationships are shit). 

And if any of them are successful with women, they can’t tell you because honestly, they don’t know exactly what they are doing because they are just naturals (it’s inborn in them). 

But all hope is not lost. You can avoid getting sucked into the “friend zone”, and if you are in one, you can get out of it. You can become the man no woman can resist. How do I know this? 
Because, I was once like you, a wussy. Women used to walk all over me until I stripped myself of the “normal guy routine” and started using some ancient biological attraction triggers that have been used for more than 2,000 years since men used to live in caves and were gatherers. 

This is the same secret that the world’s famous lovers like Casanova, Mark Anthony, Elvis Presley, “Hugh Hefner (PlayBoy) Bill Clinton, etc used to get into the hearts and subsequently pants of the women they desired.

Since I learnt these ancient secrets my life has completely changed, 100 percent. I am now “The Man”. I am now the guy who women want to be with and STAY WITH. I am now the guy who has it all.

I am sure you want to have it all too, right? If you truly want to get the woman of your dreams to fall totally in love with you and keep her in love with you, then these ancient biological attraction triggers are what you should be using.

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Reasons Why She Is Losing Interest

Top 3 Reasons Why She Is Losing Interest In You

There are quite a number of reasons she is losing interest in you. It will happen at some point in every relationship once you’re not doing everything right. And you can’t do everything right always.

There are times you’ll be more focused on other things and neglect your relationship. It happens to the best of men. However, knowing what to do and how to turn things around quickly is important.

Here are the 3 top reasons the woman you have been with for a while will or is losing interest in you;

Top 3 Reasons Why She Is Losing Interest In You

  • You Became Complacent
  • There’s Someone In The Picture
  • She got Lazy

Before I go ahead and broaden the points made above, I want to share a quote with you

“In life, you can ignore reality. But you cannot ignore the consequences that come with it”

 

You Became Complacent:

Men are goal oriented beings and they tackle situations as they come. When resolved, they tend to move on to the next task. The same thing happens at the initial stage of a relationship. You worked hard to make sure you get her attention, you take her out on dates, you leave her surprise notes and messages, you were fun to be with, etc. However, as the relationship deepens you slowly begin to slip into complacency forgetting how you treated her during the initial stages of your relationship. You are now engrossed with other activities, you think you’ve conquered her.

You start ignoring the little signals and vibes she gives and slowly starts losing interest in you.

The dating never stops if you want to keep her interest. She needs to continue to receive doses of the fun and suspense you made her feel at the beginning of the relationship.

 

There’s Someone In The Picture

A woman can be losing her interest in you because there is someone else competing for her attention and because women are emotional beings and can’t have their emotions invested in two persons equally her interest level is more affected or increased by the person who is doing everything right. If the other guy continues to do everything right like you did at the onset of your relationship and she is insecure and has doubts about her relationship with you, she eventually cheats on you.

This is why you must continually look out for her attraction level and know where she’s at on a scale of 4-10. Anything below 4 can’t be salvaged.

In my book “Become The Man She Can’t Resist”, I explain in detail how to know where she’s at and what to do when she is below the expected level of where she’s in love with you.

 

She got Lazy

A lot of women get lazy at a point in the relationship. When a woman doesn’t work to get anything from you, she gets lazy of returning the affection and love you show her. When you continue to reward bad behaviour from her and she knows that no matter what she does, you’ll always be there, she starts losing interest unknowingly to her. This is when you send messages and she doesn’t reply yet you continue to send her messages regardless of her bad behaviour, you call her, she doesn’t return your missed calls, the enthusiasm to spend time with you starts plummeting, she has become too comfortable and knows her stand with you. Which shows you’re pursuing her more than she is pursuing you.

If a woman isn’t returning your love and affection, you must withdraw them lest she starts taking it all for granted and thinking it’s her birth right. If she takes you for granted, she won’t respect you and if she doesn’t respect you, she can’t be in love with you.

You should also be able to tell when the game is over and she’s no more interested

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Jonathan Melody

Author, Graphic Artist, Peak Performance Coach, and Entrepreneur

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How can I change her mind

Maybe If I Tell Her How I Feel, She Would Change Her Mind?

You might be thinking to change a woman’s mind, you have to be extraordinarily nice to her? Well. you can’t change her mind.You can only influence it.

Seduction is an art which you must learn if you don’t already know how it works. And you can’t know it all. Hence must continue to learn and grow.

The following is an e-mail I got from a reader. He wants to know if he can still have his ex-girlfriend back. He thinks trying to use logic will get her to change her mind about her decision of leaving him. He still needs to read my book a couple of times so as to have the information laid in its pages become part of him. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Before I go ahead, I would like to share a quote with you.

When someone takes your presence for granted, you must give them the gifts of your absence.

Greetings sir, I just completed the first two books “Become the man she can’t resist” & “4 rules to getting her to do what you want”. I must say you’re a very articulate gentleman and the books were informative and insightful.

(Thank you! seeing relationships become fun and loving and for growth and giving is my aim. That is the purpose of all relationships and this I want every man to be aware of. However, you must not read the book just once and think you know it all. You have to read the book at least 10 times and when you think you know it all, you go read it again.)

Going by the dictates of the books, I realized I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my previous relationships.

(Yes, definitely, that’s what led you to my book. You have been doing some things wrong in your relationships and you needed a change)

My ex-girlfriend broke up with me almost a month ago. She started withdrawing and wouldn’t return my ” I love you” & “I miss you”. I complained. She insinuated that she did love me, but wanted her space cos I was choking her. She also said she wanted to pay more attention to her business and less to me.

(This shows you were not letting her come to you. Women love slowly than men do. Men love on sight. With women, it’s all a different game. A woman who is totally in love with you wouldn’t ask for space or break as she can give up anything just to be with you and make you happy. But here you are, assuming the position of a woman by bitching about what you’re not receiving. The more you focus on what you receive the more pain you get in return when your expectations are not met.She’s not returning the “I Love You”  because she’s already shut down and has been shutting down for long but you were too busy about how you felt to notice. Your job as a man is to give. You penetrate your woman in all respects. You need to read my book over and over again until you own the information and can give a lecture on it.)

I agreed and reassured her of my love, also told her she could take her time with her business and give it all the attention she wants. But she still wasn’t returning my I love yous (which I pointed out again). She broke up with me a few days later and said she wasn’t ready to commit because of her budding business and goals unachieved.

( You reassured her of your love but still withdraw your gifts of love from her? Give her space! She wasn’t going to end it, but you kept pushing your foot down her throat. Who would want that? The superior man gives freely and expects nothing in return. You need to rid your self of expectations. She says, she is not ready to commit? That’s BS! She just wants to sweeten it for you. She’s saying,”I have had it with you fu!ked up Pus!y. You ain’t man enough to handle an independent and confident lady.  Man up and take care of business”.)

I’ve tried my best to remain in communication with her, of course, her calls and texts are brief since our breakup. We’ve argued few times over the phone after the breakup, she insulted me twice, hung up the phone on me few times. I never retaliated anyway. Yesterday was her birthday and I reached out to her.

(There you go again, someone is saying give me space and you’re busy crowding her space. Would you like that? Time to get off the phone and work on yourself. And you don’t argue with a woman because you will not win but only end up stirring up negative emotions in her. Not a superior man’s way of handling issues. And you don’t wish someone happy birthday when they want space from you(Stop being Mr Nice Guy). You also need to learn how to maintain your emotional centre Please read my book again and again and again)

But I’m still burning with desire for her. I want her back. Do I have any chance of getting her back? I’d like to know. If there is, what do I do? Do I just follow the dictates of your Ebooks? I anticipate your reply. 

Greetings!

(Give her what she wants, I outlined the 5 principles of getting an ex back in my book “Become The Man She Can’t Resist”. follow them and watch the magic happen if she’s still in her 5s/50s on the interest level scale).

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From My Heart To You

Jonathan Melody

Author, Graphic Artist, Peak Performance Coach, and Entrepreneur

 

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