[dropcap]The[/dropcap] first thing I want you to understand is, developing self-confidence is a process and you need not hit yourself so hard if you’re still making mistakes as you need them to grow. Your ability to face your fears makes you grow and the more you face your fears the more your fears dissipate.
You may well have the perfect job, the perfect relationship and a perfect house, you can not fully enjoy if you’re not standing firmly in your shoes. Hence I have laid before you, the 10 commandments of self-confidence and be sure to read and follow these ten signs to a life of self-confidence!
1. Thou shalt love you
Become your own cheerleader and give your self-esteem a boost. Know your weaknesses and face them (don’t ever run away from them. Remember what you face dissipates), but focus on what you can do well. Dare to be proud of your talents and accept compliments straight, without having to wave away with an excuse.
2. Thou shalt not compare you with others
“Comparison is the thief of joy,” Roosevelt once said. There will always be someone smarter, richer or more handsome than you. But if you want to build confidence, you need to focus on improving your own life. Hang out where your interests are!
A little challenge has never died. But if your challenges consist of life, it can cause a lot of unrest. It is not wrong to do something, just because you’re good at it. That gives you back energy and self-confidence for the rest. Think of a sport, volunteer or committee work in an association.
3. Thou shalt not be a perfectionist
Perfectionism paralyzes. Set realistic and achievable goals for yourself and learn to be happy. Find a way to be happy with what you have accomplished, rather obsessively to handle. And don’t let a failed attempt stop you from giving it another shot. Your project fails, does not mean you failed. It sounds like blah but really works: see failure as a learning process. And you’re studying to learn, right? The moment you see it really as a failure, it is in your way and you can not leave it behind.
4. Thou shalt push your limits
Step out of your comfort zone and try something completely new(Do that thing you’re dead scared to do: Yes just do it). Whether you’re making a trip or going on a blind date: by embracing you learn to accept the unknown that you do not need to have everything under control.
5. Honor yourself and your values
Be true to yourself and to the things for which you stand. If you take away from your values, you destroy your own hands, your self-image and you forget something important: That you’re forever with your decisions to live with.
6. Thou shalt fake it
Be yourself and be clever about it: by being yourself and acting how you want to be, you start to believe you are too. Some tips: walking upright with head high and never cross your arms.
7. Remember to keep learning
Exchange the boring evening TV shows for books, cult films, inspirational talks … increasing your capacity to learn, build a confident mentality. You are what you know!
8. Thou shalt get involved in sports
Sport has a huge effect on your confidence. You improve your appearance, get masses of energy and achieve something positive, where you can afterglow of the day. So register with a gym house close to you tomorrow.
If you take care of yourself, you feel better. And that makes you radiate. So put on those clothes that you think are awesome, go get that body you’ve always wanted, pay extra attention to your body and take time for yourself. If you have the idea that you look good (look/appearance), you have more confidence. Note that you do these things for yourself, not for others.
9. Thou shalt avoid negativity
Take away every form of negativity from your life: friends that make you feel bad, a tedious job … Try to see the positives. Do not focus on ‘what ifs?’ but in the here and now. A negative attitude has a negative impact on your self-confidence (and your mood). If your approaches are all optimistic, you’re much happier in life. So instead of thinking that you can not do something, you can also encourage yourself.
10. Thou shalt live in the present
Although reminiscing or dreaming can certainly do sometimes sound to the future, focus your best as possible in the here and now.
From my heart to you
Author, Graphic Artist, Peak Performance Coach, and Entrepreneur
My name is Jonathan Melody, and I am an ecommerce expert and a sales funnel strategist. I also help men to regain balance in all areas of their lives (including personal finances, relationships and wealth building)