Reasons Why She Is Losing Interest

Top 3 Reasons Why She Is Losing Interest In You

There are quite a number of reasons she is losing interest in you. It will happen at some point in every relationship once you’re not doing everything right. And you can’t do everything right always.

There are times you’ll be more focused on other things and neglect your relationship. It happens to the best of men. However, knowing what to do and how to turn things around quickly is important.

Here are the 3 top reasons the woman you have been with for a while will or is losing interest in you;

Top 3 Reasons Why She Is Losing Interest In You

  • You Became Complacent
  • There’s Someone In The Picture
  • She got Lazy

Before I go ahead and broaden the points made above, I want to share a quote with you

“In life, you can ignore reality. But you cannot ignore the consequences that come with it”


You Became Complacent:

Men are goal oriented beings and they tackle situations as they come. When resolved, they tend to move on to the next task. The same thing happens at the initial stage of a relationship. You worked hard to make sure you get her attention, you take her out on dates, you leave her surprise notes and messages, you were fun to be with, etc. However, as the relationship deepens you slowly begin to slip into complacency forgetting how you treated her during the initial stages of your relationship. You are now engrossed with other activities, you think you’ve conquered her.

You start ignoring the little signals and vibes she gives and slowly starts losing interest in you.

The dating never stops if you want to keep her interest. She needs to continue to receive doses of the fun and suspense you made her feel at the beginning of the relationship.


There’s Someone In The Picture

A woman can be losing her interest in you because there is someone else competing for her attention and because women are emotional beings and can’t have their emotions invested in two persons equally her interest level is more affected or increased by the person who is doing everything right. If the other guy continues to do everything right like you did at the onset of your relationship and she is insecure and has doubts about her relationship with you, she eventually cheats on you.

This is why you must continually look out for her attraction level and know where she’s at on a scale of 4-10. Anything below 4 can’t be salvaged.

In my book “Become The Man She Can’t Resist”, I explain in detail how to know where she’s at and what to do when she is below the expected level of where she’s in love with you.


She got Lazy

A lot of women get lazy at a point in the relationship. When a woman doesn’t work to get anything from you, she gets lazy of returning the affection and love you show her. When you continue to reward bad behaviour from her and she knows that no matter what she does, you’ll always be there, she starts losing interest unknowingly to her. This is when you send messages and she doesn’t reply yet you continue to send her messages regardless of her bad behaviour, you call her, she doesn’t return your missed calls, the enthusiasm to spend time with you starts plummeting, she has become too comfortable and knows her stand with you. Which shows you’re pursuing her more than she is pursuing you.

If a woman isn’t returning your love and affection, you must withdraw them lest she starts taking it all for granted and thinking it’s her birth right. If she takes you for granted, she won’t respect you and if she doesn’t respect you, she can’t be in love with you.

You should also be able to tell when the game is over and she’s no more interested

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Jonathan Melody

Author, Graphic Artist, Peak Performance Coach, and Entrepreneur

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How can I change her mind

Maybe If I Tell Her How I Feel, She Would Change Her Mind?

You might be thinking to change a woman’s mind, you have to be extraordinarily nice to her? Well. you can’t change her mind.You can only influence it.

Seduction is an art which you must learn if you don’t already know how it works. And you can’t know it all. Hence must continue to learn and grow.

The following is an e-mail I got from a reader. He wants to know if he can still have his ex-girlfriend back. He thinks trying to use logic will get her to change her mind about her decision of leaving him. He still needs to read my book a couple of times so as to have the information laid in its pages become part of him. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Before I go ahead, I would like to share a quote with you.

When someone takes your presence for granted, you must give them the gifts of your absence.

Greetings sir, I just completed the first two books “Become the man she can’t resist” & “4 rules to getting her to do what you want”. I must say you’re a very articulate gentleman and the books were informative and insightful.

(Thank you! seeing relationships become fun and loving and for growth and giving is my aim. That is the purpose of all relationships and this I want every man to be aware of. However, you must not read the book just once and think you know it all. You have to read the book at least 10 times and when you think you know it all, you go read it again.)

Going by the dictates of the books, I realized I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my previous relationships.

(Yes, definitely, that’s what led you to my book. You have been doing some things wrong in your relationships and you needed a change)

My ex-girlfriend broke up with me almost a month ago. She started withdrawing and wouldn’t return my ” I love you” & “I miss you”. I complained. She insinuated that she did love me, but wanted her space cos I was choking her. She also said she wanted to pay more attention to her business and less to me.

(This shows you were not letting her come to you. Women love slowly than men do. Men love on sight. With women, it’s all a different game. A woman who is totally in love with you wouldn’t ask for space or break as she can give up anything just to be with you and make you happy. But here you are, assuming the position of a woman by bitching about what you’re not receiving. The more you focus on what you receive the more pain you get in return when your expectations are not met.She’s not returning the “I Love You”  because she’s already shut down and has been shutting down for long but you were too busy about how you felt to notice. Your job as a man is to give. You penetrate your woman in all respects. You need to read my book over and over again until you own the information and can give a lecture on it.)

I agreed and reassured her of my love, also told her she could take her time with her business and give it all the attention she wants. But she still wasn’t returning my I love yous (which I pointed out again). She broke up with me a few days later and said she wasn’t ready to commit because of her budding business and goals unachieved.

( You reassured her of your love but still withdraw your gifts of love from her? Give her space! She wasn’t going to end it, but you kept pushing your foot down her throat. Who would want that? The superior man gives freely and expects nothing in return. You need to rid your self of expectations. She says, she is not ready to commit? That’s BS! She just wants to sweeten it for you. She’s saying,”I have had it with you fu!ked up Pus!y. You ain’t man enough to handle an independent and confident lady.  Man up and take care of business”.)

I’ve tried my best to remain in communication with her, of course, her calls and texts are brief since our breakup. We’ve argued few times over the phone after the breakup, she insulted me twice, hung up the phone on me few times. I never retaliated anyway. Yesterday was her birthday and I reached out to her.

(There you go again, someone is saying give me space and you’re busy crowding her space. Would you like that? Time to get off the phone and work on yourself. And you don’t argue with a woman because you will not win but only end up stirring up negative emotions in her. Not a superior man’s way of handling issues. And you don’t wish someone happy birthday when they want space from you(Stop being Mr Nice Guy). You also need to learn how to maintain your emotional centre Please read my book again and again and again)

But I’m still burning with desire for her. I want her back. Do I have any chance of getting her back? I’d like to know. If there is, what do I do? Do I just follow the dictates of your Ebooks? I anticipate your reply. 


(Give her what she wants, I outlined the 5 principles of getting an ex back in my book “Become The Man She Can’t Resist”. follow them and watch the magic happen if she’s still in her 5s/50s on the interest level scale).

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Jonathan Melody

Author, Graphic Artist, Peak Performance Coach, and Entrepreneur


woman not interested

Do I still have a chance with her?

If you truly want to be successful with women, you want to be able to differentiate women with a low level of interest from those with a high level of interest. In my book, I talked about the signs a woman gives when her level of interest is high. You want her interest level to be in the 5s/50s, to begin with.

denied by womanYou don’t want to waste your time and resources on a woman who at the end of the day doesn’t give a jack about you when there is a dozen of women who are waiting for you just to sweep them off their feet.

The following is an e-mail I got from a reader. He wants to know if he still has a chance with a girl who has told him, she is uninterested in him. He thinks his friend lied to him regards his relationship with the girl in question. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Before I go ahead, I want to share a quote with you

“You cannot force someone to comprehend a message that they are not ready to receive. Still, you must not underestimate the power of planting a seed.”


Hi Sir,
I commend u for the great advice in-depth coach. God bless you 

(Amen and this is my purpose, to help solve problems the best way I can and I love interacting and meeting women. When you understand women, meeting them becomes easy. A woman can instantly sense a confident male from afar and are easily drawn to him)

I have a problem which I trust u can help me out. There is this lady ve been trying to woo over a year now but to no avail.She is very close to a friend of mine. I told my friend I was interested in this lady and he encouraged me to go forward and try my luck with her.
I propose to her but she turned me down…she told me she had somebody in mind which I pushed her to tell me who this guy is. Unfortunately, it is my own friend who had lied to me. I realised he has not been truthful to me.
I use to call text n chat her a lot but have since stopped doing that tho am still interested in her.

(You don’t give up. Do you? What I see from your email though it isn’t as descriptive as it should is that; you have been treating this girl like a friend would instead of how a lover would. If you are interested in a woman romantically, you must treat her exactly how a lover would and not an errand boy or a female boyfriend. A woman will always respond to how you treat her

You need to understand that attraction is not a choice. We don’t get to choose who we get attracted to. The world and dating would have been so much easier. Don’t you think? When you understand the fundamentals which I teach, you will be able to know when a woman isn’t interested and when to move on
And saying your friend lied to you? about what? that the girl is interested in him? or am I missing something? It could be that your friend doesn’t even know she likes him.
You see, women are like cats who are sometimes drawn to the person who least cares about them. You need to learn the basics and that’s why you should get my book.)

Please, how do I go about it?
Thank You and stay blessed.

(What you should do right now is nothing and wait to hear from her. And go out there and find someone else (don’t get fixated on one woman who isn’t even attracted to you).

If she misses the times you spent with her, she would call you and when she does, ask her if she has changed her mind of you two becoming romantically involved. If she says no. Tell her you would like to hear from her only when she changes her mind (Don’t be rude while you say this). If she says yes, set a date and go have fun. If she says she doesn’t know, tell her to call you when she decides in a sweet and loving tone.
So, go out there. Someone is waiting for you to just come and sweep her off the ground.
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Jonathan Melody

Author, Graphic Artist, Peak Performance Coach, and Entrepreneur


How To Get Over An Ex Girlfriend

How To Get Over An Ex Quickly

Is it Possible To Get Over An Ex

Getting over a break up with someone one once shared everything with is never easy. However, there’s a how to get over an ex.

I remember when it happened to me(It has happened severally in the past). But there was one that hit me so hard. I felt used, I felt stupid to have ever loved her the way I did. I was so heartbroken that I could feel the pain in my stomach and chest. I was emotionally tortured at that time. My taste buds died. I would lie on my bed and cry. I couldn’t believe how it happened. How she just let go so easily. My business and health started suffering as I cared less and less about them. But thanks goodness I was able to pull myself backup within 2 weeks! And I want to share these same tips with you.

Even though these tips are directed towards males, it can be used by anyone(male or female) to get over an ex.


Steps On How To Get Over An Ex Quickly

These are same steps I took and I am very certain this will help you get over him/her

Forgive Yourself: I know you might be feeling sorry and stupid and upset for loving your ex the way you did. But if you want to get over them, you need to stop beating up yourself. Accept that it happened and you gave it your best. We are humans and we grow through mistakes. You have to understand that every relationship is an opportunity for self-growth.


Let it out and Let go: It’s OK to cry it out if you must. Let the negative emotions you feel out. Don’t try to hold on to the hurt or to how you have being hurt by this person. I know it can be really hard to let go and forget all the memories shared. I’m not saying you should forget these memories but rather you should embrace and appreciate them. Don’t think of them as bad persons because they changed the terms of the relationship you had with them. It’s not about them but you. Your self-worth and value at this point are more important and that you should focus on.


Let your close friends in: Sometimes, during the course of our relationships, we tend to abandon close friends. Now is the time to talk to them, spend time with time. Your close pals will help ease your pain as well as make you heal faster. You want to spend more time with them than you do alone.


Get Fit and Healthy: If you’re really into the how to get over your ex, this is an important step in the process. I know the end of the relationship had eaten into you. But you can’t let your body and health suffer. This is the time to hit the gym and get fit. Start eating healthy. Your time with them is over doesn’t mean your life is over. There’s so much out there to achieve and you don’t to ruin it for yourself just because someone couldn’t see the gold in you.


No Regrets: While it’s OK to reflect on the relationship, you shouldn’t beat yourself up for things you did or shouldn’t have done during the relationship. Accepting the split will not only make you heal faster but also make you feel less lonely. Focus on only the positives of the split.


Get a New Hobby: Find something new to engage yourself. Learn a new skill or start reading new books or learn how to cook the meal you always wanted to. Just do something new to keep you busy. Now is the time to increase your value by learning something new and have a shift from depression.

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Love yourself: Remember the first step on how to get over an ex was about forgiving yourself? If you have done that, now is the time to start loving and dating yourself. Take yourself out, start treating yourself the way you want others or a partner to treat you.

This step will help you to destroy any form of emotional suffering. One reason why you still feel attached to your ex is; she gave you something you couldn’t give yourself. It could be that she made you feel wanted and appreciated. It could be that she helped to give a boost to your self-esteem. Whatever it is she gave you, now is the time to start giving that to yourself.


No Contact: If you’re serious about the how to get over an ex, then you want to take this very seriously. Do not contact her, lose all form of contact. Emails, phone numbers, resist the urge of spying on them to see what they are up to. Spying on your ex will only aggravate your pain. Make a conscious effort not to contact them; no birthday wishes, no condolences, no season greetings. Their role in your life is over so keep it that way. While some will say it isn’t good to burn bridges which I agree to. But for now, we have to burn that bridge. No, they ain’t your enemy.


Don’t rush into a new relationship: Yes it is possible to fall in love again. But stay away from the relationship rush for the now and focus on developing yourself. Be who you want your future partner to be. What are the lame things you did in your previous relationship? Now is the time to work on them and become a better version of you.

Don’t get caught up in the process of getting over your ex that you lose yourself. It’s not about them but you. So focus on yourself and become an interesting person.

Become The Real Man She Can’t Resist: How To Attract And Re-Attract The Woman Of Your Dreams

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From My Heart To You

Jonathan Melody

Author, Graphic Artist, Peak Performance Coach, and Entrepreneur

make money video marketing

video marketing: make money creating video animations

The fact is, video marketing is a vital component if you want to increase the sales of your products and services online. As you read on I’ll introduce you to the best video maker. The marketing space is undergoing a shift and to keep up, you must follow the trend.

Now, people are more likely to watch videos than reading. If you want to increase your engagement with potential customers/clients, video marketing is the right path to follow.

With videos, you’re sure to increase your click through rates 100 times better than before.

How do you start creating your videos?

There are numerous software on the internet but viddyoze is just an exception as it takes just seconds as opposed to a full day of work to create your video animations.

Now you no longer have to bother yourself about learning how to do this. With viddyoze you will be just a few clicks away from creating your videos.

This is probably the best video app ever released and talking popularity? This app is definitely one and the best video maker out there

Video animation is the future of video marketing and with viddyoze you get to see big advancement in animations. We have been limited to the use of digital animations until now. (You know the kind – swirls of smoke or flashing lights that turn into a logo, that kind of thing).

Now, don’t get me wrong there’s nothing wrong with the swirls and the flashing lights. I’ve used them a lot for my products and clients, they make your videos look hot.


They don’t stand out as much as before because almost everyone uses them.

Once, it was about getting ahead.

Now, using digital animation means you’re keeping up. But you don’t stand out from the crowd.

That’s why Viddyoze Live is so exciting. Because for the very first time, you can have your logo rendered into a live scene.

Moving perfectly as if it’s there in that 3D space. The effect is unlike ANYTHING ever seen before.

Your logo on a t-shirt, on a coffee cup, on the bottom of a swimming pool. This is why I consider it the best video maker!

The first time I saw it, I was floored.

The second time, I was like… how do they even do that?

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(And when you can give your viewers a reaction like that, it’s not hard to turn it into loads of money) This is super impressive animation app.

One other thing is, the team behind Viddyoze are showing you exactly how they get their audio made.

Because audio is one of the most important parts of how a video is received.  Possibly the most important part.

And the fact that everyone else would buy some royalty free audio and overlap

This is not the case for Viddyoze.

They hired Grammy-nominated producer ill Factor to create custom tracks.

This guy’s worked with Justin Timberlake, Jay-Z, and Timbaland… and you’ll be hearing his work on the Viddyoze teaser as well.

You probably might have heard of viddyoze. They revolutionized video animation.

Since their first version launched a couple of years ago. I have created a lot of successful businesses using their app and also helped many of my clients.

Viddyoze made slick, sellable video production available to everyone in the video marketing space.

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But this time, they’ve really outdone themselves.Taking things to a whole new level.

Letting you create animations blended with live action footage.

This goes far beyond what even AfterEffects can do.

And the awesome part is when your video rocks out with an intro like the ones you can create with viddyoze, jaws are going to drop.

Your products will look incredible, and your clients will watch your first video and come back for even more.

And your videos will be the ones everyone will be talking about.

Viddyoze Live is going to be a subscription, but you can get access NOW for a one time investment.

Wondering where to sell video marketing services?

Video animation is a very lucrative service you can start providing today and with viddyoze, you get to provide your clients with exciting and exclusive video animations.

Here are a few platforms to start selling this service;

  • Udemy
  • Upwork
  • Fiverr
  • Skillshare
  • Envato
  • Freelancer
  • Peopleperhour
  • Youtube

If You purchase viddyoze, here are bonuses you’ll have access to

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From My Heart To You

Jonathan Melody

Author, Graphic Artist, Peak Performance Coach, and Entrepreneur

Cash for building apps

Cash For Apps: How To Make Money Building Apps Without Coding Knowledge

I know you might be wondering if it is even possible to develop an app without having the knowledge of coding. Yes, it is possible! But before we dive deep into cash for apps, I want to talk about how you can increase your chances of developing successful apps.

Do Your Own Research

Before thinking about developing an app. You must first conduct a research to ascertain if there are people who will make use of your app. If you skip this, you might just end up wasting your time and resources. I need you to understand how important this is if you want cash for apps you develop.

When you’ve concluded on what the market want, you move on to;

Build a Paid and a Free Version of your app

I want you to take this seriously. Make sure you have a paid version of your app where you upload exclusive contents. This is where you have the updated contents found in the free version. I’m not saying you should go ahead and develop or build a crappy app or not to have quality contents in the free version of the app. The goal here is to attract users to start using your app. This is to get them to know about the app and its contents with the hopes that they upgrade to the premium version of your app. They will do this either to reward whoever is behind the app or just to gain access to the exclusive contents and features. This can only happen if the contents in the free version added value to their lives.

This doesn’t mean you can’t get the cash for apps on the free version. All you need do is run ads on these free version and only offer an ad free app on the paid version.

Users Contents must be unique

If you have been following, you’ll understand that you can’t get the cash for apps if it doesn’t add value to your users. The reason why you must have a thorough research on your target market as this would help you carve contents tailored to them and that would benefit them. Because the contents that you create is the real app and not the framework design.

Build more than one app

With the cash for apps goal in mind, you need to build more than one app is this is how you make lots of money. As you get to earn from every app built. The Little money can easily add up to become huge sum. You can do this by taking advantage of easily building apps without coding skills using MobiMatic.

One way to determine an idea to focus on is to build many apps. My point here is you need to continue trying until you eventually find an idea that works. Your chances of success increase with more apps you make/build.

Hold on there! Before you think of running off and spamming the market with your apps, keep in mind there is a host of app out. Hence, it is important you put some thought and effort into what you want to build so it stands out and gets noticed. As your reputation plays a great part in your career as a developer of apps.

You should also take to note that maintaining apps and making them bug-free takes effort.  Although most apps would eventually be retired, you would want to keep them updated from time to time some your chances for cash for apps increases. Because updating your app with new contents is how you keep your users.

Link Apps Using free apps

What I mean here is promoting your apps on your free apps using direct links. This would be more effective if the promotional app is related to the promoted app.

You can use house ads. You get to control ads shown on your apps. A good advertising network to use is AdMob.

Have your apps on the Google play store as users will get to see apps from the same developer. Google play has a section that shows more apps from a developer. This is a very good way to get your apps discovered as it serves as an automatic filter to discovering your apps by anyone who browses one of your apps.

Always update your apps

Keeping your apps fresh with new features and contents is important if you want to keep your existing users. Always updating your apps will give your app a bump in the eyes of the user.

Monitoring your reviews from users will help you know what is working and what is not and how to fix. This is a great way to what next feature to add to your app. The aspect is speedy update you can easily achieve with MobiMatic.

Freelancing to have cash for apps

There are lots of businesses out there in search of app developers. Mobimatic has made it so easy that you don’t even need to know coding to build apps. You can make as much as $1000 monthly building mobile apps for small and large businesses. Freelancing is one of the make money online strategies and a great way to start making quick bucks building apps

About Mobimatic

Mobimatic is a revolutionary software that can help you to create your own app in few steps. You simply drag and drop. How simple can that be?

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Features of MobiMatic

It doesn’t matter what niche you wish to build an app for, MobiMatic covers it, from e-learning to business apps. And for someone without the knowledge of coding or technical skills and want cash for apps, this is the perfect software to use for that purpose. Remember how I talked about knowing what the market wants? This software provides all that trend/data.

One other great feature is the MobiMatic Academy, where all instructions and videos tutorials are laid out to power your app development career.

You definitely should check out MobiMatic if you’re serious about cash for apps.

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Focusing and refining your monetization strategies is important to achieving your business goals and giving to your users exactly what they want. You don’t want to have ads on your apps if they are meant for your brand. Just having the app can make you loads of money by simply expanding ways your customers can easily reach and interact with your business.  Be sure to keep track of your data to ensure your returns matches your investment. Once you have enough data, you innovate. Don’t be limited, try new things, test, test, and test based on your results to find the best monetization strategy for your users and business.

If you have a question you would like me to consider answering or topics you’d love to see on this blog you can send it (3-4 paragraphs/500 words max) to this email address:

From My Heart To You

Jonathan Melody

Author, Graphic Artist, Peak Performance Coach, and Entrepreneur

what makes sex Good

Good Sex: What women wish men knew

[dropcap]Good[/dropcap] sex and sexual satisfaction are vital if you want to maintain a happy relationship. Sadly, a lot of couples struggle with this. A study on the sexual behavior of women found that heterosexual woman had fewer orgasms. The study, conducted by The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University, and Chapman University found that while 98% of heterosexual men achieved orgasm during sex, only 65% of heterosexual women did.

One of the many reasons that have been found for many women, not into casual sex is that straight fellas suck under the sheaths to a reasonable degree. And the untold truth is: becoming a legend in bed doesn’t take so much if only you could be more attentive.

So, pay attention if you want to be Better at bringing her home.

Good Sex

Say no to porn

If you want to be amazing in bed, just forget porn. You’ll end up learning just the wrong things from watching porn. You can’t learn how to fight just by watching bruce lee fighting. The least fun-sex anyone is having is porn sex. It’s less about how it feels and more about how it looks good on camera. Porn sex is more about getting it to the penetration as quickly as possible, No mutual pleasure involved.


Good Sex Last Longer Than You Think

Not exactly what you’re thinking right now. Duration is part of what makes good sex. Studies have shown that women who have longer sex for longer durations experience orgasms more frequently. I’m not talking about a man’s staying power/strength. Constant hardcore sex starting hurting after lasting for too long. Porns make it look fine when it’s so easy with editing, seeming like it can last forever. Vaginal hang-time doesn’t equate good sex. Truth is, perfect penetration time to ejaculation is between 10 and 15minutes. What’s important is the overall duration of sex.

The way men handle female arousal and the differences in how males and females get aroused is one of the many reasons men are so lousy under the sheaths. Everyone is just different. Many women have a slow responsive arousal pattern. This is why it is important to start making love to her mind rather than I’m horny, so I’m just going to starting touching and kissing you. Because of this, a man can peak so quickly as he’s in a rush to get in, leaving his partner frustrated and disappointed. So instead of being quick to start the journey, wait for her to cross the finish line.

what makes good Sex

So how do you get her to the finish line first? Good, you asked…

Foreplay is the key. A lot of women are craving for this. So if you can become someone who loves foreplay, women will love to have you in bed.  But you must realize that a woman has more erogenous zones than just her boobs or nipples. You must find these spots and take advantage of them.

A kiss on the right spot can drive a woman wild. Running your hands through her clavicles can make her shudder in the best ways. Even running your fingers through her lips can just be what will get her engine humming. Explore, take your time to arouse her instead of being focused on the main event. Your goal here is to give to her and not get your shots out as quickly as possible.

This is why;

You should stop thinking with your d!ck and start thing with your lips, hands, and tongue

The biggest mistake you’d make whilst trying to have good sex is thinking your d!ck is all you need. In fact, you think to have the right gadgets, especially that just big enough to accommodate a secondary circulatory system is all you need to take your woman home, make her moan and then go on about her much you satisfied her is the wrong thinking. In all sincerity, she just hoping you don’t get off the plane while she’s still getting the engine warmed up.

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You need to know that while all men can orgasm just with penetration, just a few can reach that point with penetration alone. Penis shape, size, length are secondary haves. 91% of women will almost orgasm with a combination of oral sex, hand stimulation, and deep kissing and this does not mean pressure or speed. Far from it, attacking a woman’s clitoris with your like your you’re trying to take off and attached seal isn’t going to do the trick neither would finger banging. When it comes to good sex, oral sex and hands are important but then it’s very easy to end up being too intense and hurt her. Some women require intense stimulation while others lighter. The reason you have to ask her which she prefers. Don’t play a dumb. Also. It’s vital you take note of other areas of her vagina and not just her clitoris as it is bigger than you can imagine, with wings reaching down the sides of the pubic mound. Just rubbing your palm against the vulva can be more pleasurable than tracing the letter ”1”  with your tongue.

Having her sit and grind on your thighs while work on stimulating her can get her more excited than having your finger inside of her. (and please trim your fuc!ng nails).

And while you’re at it…

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Spice Things Up

God sex is more than just the technique you bring it. One worst thing you would bring under the sheaths is boring sex. Good sex can quickly turn mediocre if it becomes a routine. Bring in some fervor in it as the human brain craves excitement and novelty. Part of what made the honeymoon stage so passionate was the readings the brain was being flooded with(a lot of dopamine). The Sad news is, the human can be used to just about anything and that includes good sex. What was mind blowing 2 months ago can become boring today.

Boredom kills attraction quickly and a muffler of orgasms. If you want to keep your game tight and strong, then you need to employ variety. New positions, sex toys, role playing can make good sex into great sex.

This brings me to…

Using Words

Like I have said before, becoming a great lover has more to do with what lies between your ears than what lies between your legs. And I am talking about your brain and mouth. Talk form a great part in sustaining sexual arousal. Starting treating sex as more than just bodies. Flirt outside the bedroom, give compliments at little things your woman does in bed. Tell her how you like the way she turns you on. Tell her how you love the melody from her lips. Tell her what next you’re going to do to her.

The purpose of this is to stimulate her mind. Teasing and tantalizing one another keep the arousal heightened. Communicate with her so she feels comfortable talking about what she wants from you. Being good in bed means you’re ready to practice giving.

Being able to make her comfortable in communicating her needs and you providing them in bed is what makes you a great lover who she’ll always remember and good in bed.


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From My Heart To You

Jonathan Melody

Author, Graphic Artist, Peak Performance Coach, and Entrepreneur

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Reasons Why Modern Relationships Are Falling Apart So Easily Today

The fail of modern relationships. What is really happening you may ask? Looking for reasons why relationships fail in the modern society? Even with the amount of time and emotions we invest, relationships still head for the rocks? Has the concept of love eluded us that we are no more concerned to make it last?

Reasons why relationships fail

We seem not to the prepared. We have become narcissists on the loose. Uncontrollable, more concerned about our own needs than the other, not ready/willing to give. We just want things laid on a platter of gold! Quitting so soon and not prepared for the growth.

We are just in for the excitement, thrill, and fun that comes with being with another. We hardly spend time together and even when together we can’t just create memories. We are so concerned about our immediate gratification! Oh, what level of selfishness. We are more concerned about the adventure than the beauty of being loved and in love. We don’t have the time to love the other because we are so busy chasing the things that would someday all go away. Nothing is worth our time anymore-not even love.

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Upset young woman sitting with her husband in the background

We’d rather spend an hour each with a hundred other than a day with one. We want options because of course, we are social beings. This keeps dragging us down the drain and eating deep into our relationships like a cankerworm eating up the buds and leaves of a tree. We take so much pleasure in lies than being truthful. Reasons why relationships fail: We don’t know why we lie but we still lie anyway. At the slightest distraction, we give in to temptation and we are out. We want perfection when we are not even perfect.

reasons why modern relationships fail today

We no longer value the importance of spending time together. Technology has replaced physical presence with texts, instant messages, video calls. We have had too much of each other and so what’s the need of spending quality time together?

We just can’t stay in one place for too long. We get bored so quickly, as quick as the air leaving a deflating balloon. The thought of settling down has become so scary. Reasons why relationships fail: We still need more time for some more fun. We want to believe we are different and can’t/don’t conform to social norms. We are rid of all morality and commitment.

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We have become more driven by sex more than we are by love. Loyalty has been hastily kicked out the window. Reasons why relationships fail: We find the temporary fulfillments more important. It’s OK to cheat on even the one we say we love. Love means nothing to us more than it’s felt on our lips. We are more controlled by logic than we are of the heart. No, we can’t take a mile flight just to see the one we love.

Reasons why relationships fail: We have become a scared generation. Who are we to blame? We got ourselves here. We let this eat this deep into us. We can’t just let down our guard and be vulnerable. Our hearts have been shattered too many a time we are scared to bare our souls than we are to launch ourselves down the depth of the dead sea.

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We place more value on things than we do on relationships. We let go of the wonderful people because of course there are more fishes in the sea. Despite the conquests we’ve had, here we are bugling at the game of love.


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From My Heart To You

Jonathan Melody

Author, Graphic Artist, Peak Performance Coach, and Entrepreneur

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Voice Over Jobs : How To Make Money From Voice Overs

[dropcap]Seeking[/dropcap] voice over jobs? My dear friend I want to assure you that you don’t need weeks or even months to get ahead in the voice over industry. The only way to make what you want to be a reality is to have a plan. As you might have known, there are basic essentials skills needed of every voice-over actor;

  • Artistic abilities
  • Technical expertise
  • Business skills

While the first comes naturally most times, the second needs a dedication to learning how to record your voice as a marketable product and the third you must not overlook. It’s a business and has to be treated as such no matter how small you’re starting.

This is no small industry, I am not saying that to scare you. A lot will be required of you as an actor. Even with its demands, you still get to have lots of fun and make a lot of money.

So How do you get started?

We have mentioned that the first skill needed is your artistic skills and for you to excel you must hone those acting skills of yours. You must not be Brad Pitt to get on camera and do a voice over. The emotion behind your voice is very important. More reason you have to invest in yourself. Remember when talent doesn’t work hard, hard work beats talent.

Here are some steps to prepare yourself;

  • Invest in lessons
  • Take online classes
  • Listen to other voice actors voice123 is a great place to start
  • Go to and start listening to other voice actors.  Use the search feature to put in the keywords and parameters that you think match your voice. Find some demos you like and some that you don’t. Figure out what it is that makes you like or dislike a demo. Also, sort by “popular” so you can hear what clients are finding the most interesting.
  • Set up a home studio: There are a lot of forums, blog posts on the best equipment for a home studio. However, I will advise you start small. Few things you’ll need

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  • A quite space
  • Sound proofing materials
  • Microphone
  • XRL cable
  • Mixer
  • Firewire Cable
  • Computer
  • Recording software

I will recommend Adobe Audition: This is one powerful tool that will allow you get into some serious audio auditioning (from producing commercials with music beds to adding sound effects and even more) Yet still very easy and simple to make use of.

Other programs include;

  • Audacity: This is free and very simple to use
  • Twisted Wave: an easy audio editor
  • ProTools: This is quite expensive but it’s the most robust program on this list.
  • Just try to use one that works best for you.

Where do you start getting voice over jobs once you’ve gotten yourself ready?

  1. Fiverr: Fiverr is a great place to start receiving voice over jobs and start earning. In case you not familiar with Fiverr. It’s a marketplace to market creative services (from graphic design to video editing to article writing to voice overs) starting at $5. Fiverr is grown so large that a lot of persons find themselves there to get their jobs down. I would encourage you to sign up for an account because unlike membership sites, it is free to get started. $5 is just a starting price so you don’t have to allow that scare you as you can earn as much as $1000/voice over job.  However, for each job 20% is theirs.


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Do you still think it’s not worth it? Check this out

available voice over work for actors

This lady has completed over 4000 projects(excluding those who didn’t leave a review) and let’s assume each job was done for $5.

4647 x $5= $23,235 -20%

$18,588(This is just an estimation as we didn’t include unreviewed jobs and of course she would have jobs worth more than $5). I just believe you get the point here?

  1. Use google search to find your local chamber of commerce:

When you search for your local chamber of commerce websites, go to the member directory. There you should find businesses or companies that would gain value from your voice over services and reach out to them. Connect with them on social websites of by a quick email. Just think of where a voice over fits in their business, let them know about it and if you impress them with your work, you might just earn yourself another voice over job.

I did a search for Illinois Chamber of Commerce and here’s what I found

providing voice over jobs for money

I will suggest having a personal website/blog to upload some of your work. Designing a blog can go a long way in helping to show your voice over works. You an even decide to do a custom sample just to WOW your prospect.


  1. Get Voice over jobs Through worldwide exposure on Bodalgo: Bodalgo is a pay to play site that brings voice over jobs from outside the US. One great thing about Bodalgo is the fact that they don’t actively market to actors. Rather, spend on finding businesses with voice over works to post. You won’t see many English speaking job postings but the jobs are usually from higher paying clients are mostly located outside the U.S.

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You can register for Bodalgo and select “I want to register as a voice talent”. You can only see public job postings as a free member. I recommend you upgrade as they have 3 membership paid plans.

A monthly plan called the “Bodalgo 30”- it costs $30 per month

A 6-month plan called “Bodalgo 180”-which costs $130

A year plan called “Boldago 360” which cost $250


You can always start with the monthly plan if you are not ready for the yearly plan. Trust me it would pay off massively.

  1. Audition Invitations with Voice123: Premium members of this platform receive the opportunities to audition voice over work daily through their smartcast system. The system just takes the information given by the client and invites the best matching voice for that project automatically. With this, no need for initial completion as only those who fit would be selected. And so you know, voice123 brings people who have voice over work straight to your inbox and in volumes. Here, you’ll get to choose voice over jobs you have time for and worth your efforts.voice over jobs available online

You have a free forever plan once you register with them and can be found in searches be able to submit up to 10 demos. But in case you want more, you can sign up for a premium account ($395/year). You’ll have better search rankings and get invited to audition.


  1. Start submitting proposals on upwork: Just like Fiverr discussed above, upwork is a great marketplace with lots of jobs to bid for. You have to submit proposals to clients and if clients love your job, you get to work with them. You have to be aware that Upwork takes 10% of every fee. So you’d prefer to add that fee to your charges.

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Getting an account is easy. Head to Upwork and sign up as a freelancer and choose the basic membership to get started. Once the account is created, start searching for voice over jobs. And if you find one you’re interested in, submit a proposal.


  1. Convert Blog contents into podcasts: You’ll agree that blog posts are amazing as they provide a great level of valuable information on any subjects just like the one you’re reading now on voice over jobs. You can have a podcast website, find out contents people are interested about and read them out. A lot of persons prefer to listen to an audio than reading. You can make podcasts on almost anything from vacation places, best meals, etc. Getting started, you need to search online for top blogs with valuable contents people would love and connect with the bloggers.

Now go make some money

easy money from voice over jobs

Bags with money


Conclusion: I have covered a lot of methods/techniques to choose from and start earning. However, choose what you are comfortable with. Don’t try to start with all at the same time. Starting one method will just be perfect in finding voice over jobs. Is there anything you think I didn’t cover in this post? Please do let me know in the comment box.


If you have a question you would like me to consider answering or topics you’d love to see on this blog you can send it (3-4 paragraphs/500 words max) to this email address:

From My Heart To You

Jonathan Melody

Author, Graphic Artist, Peak Performance Coach, and Entrepreneur