If you truly want to be successful with women, you want to be able to differentiate women with a low level of interest from those with a high level of interest. In my book, I talked about the signs a woman gives when her level of interest is high. You want her interest level to be in the 5s/50s, to begin with.

denied by womanYou don’t want to waste your time and resources on a woman who at the end of the day doesn’t give a jack about you when there is a dozen of women who are waiting for you just to sweep them off their feet.

The following is an e-mail I got from a reader. He wants to know if he still has a chance with a girl who has told him, she is uninterested in him. He thinks his friend lied to him regards his relationship with the girl in question. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Before I go ahead, I want to share a quote with you

“You cannot force someone to comprehend a message that they are not ready to receive. Still, you must not underestimate the power of planting a seed.”


Hi Sir,
I commend u for the great advice in-depth coach. God bless you 

(Amen and this is my purpose, to help solve problems the best way I can and I love interacting and meeting women. When you understand women, meeting them becomes easy. A woman can instantly sense a confident male from afar and are easily drawn to him)

I have a problem which I trust u can help me out. There is this lady ve been trying to woo over a year now but to no avail.She is very close to a friend of mine. I told my friend I was interested in this lady and he encouraged me to go forward and try my luck with her.
I propose to her but she turned me down…she told me she had somebody in mind which I pushed her to tell me who this guy is. Unfortunately, it is my own friend who had lied to me. I realised he has not been truthful to me.
I use to call text n chat her a lot but have since stopped doing that tho am still interested in her.

(You don’t give up. Do you? What I see from your email though it isn’t as descriptive as it should is that; you have been treating this girl like a friend would instead of how a lover would. If you are interested in a woman romantically, you must treat her exactly how a lover would and not an errand boy or a female boyfriend. A woman will always respond to how you treat her

You need to understand that attraction is not a choice. We don’t get to choose who we get attracted to. The world and dating would have been so much easier. Don’t you think? When you understand the fundamentals which I teach, you will be able to know when a woman isn’t interested and when to move on
And saying your friend lied to you? about what? that the girl is interested in him? or am I missing something? It could be that your friend doesn’t even know she likes him.
You see, women are like cats who are sometimes drawn to the person who least cares about them. You need to learn the basics and that’s why you should get my book.)

Please, how do I go about it?
Thank You and stay blessed.

(What you should do right now is nothing and wait to hear from her. And go out there and find someone else (don’t get fixated on one woman who isn’t even attracted to you).

If she misses the times you spent with her, she would call you and when she does, ask her if she has changed her mind of you two becoming romantically involved. If she says no. Tell her you would like to hear from her only when she changes her mind (Don’t be rude while you say this). If she says yes, set a date and go have fun. If she says she doesn’t know, tell her to call you when she decides in a sweet and loving tone.
So, go out there. Someone is waiting for you to just come and sweep her off the ground.
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My name is Jonathan Melody, and I am an ecommerce expert and a sales funnel strategist. I also help men to regain balance in all areas of their lives (including personal finances, relationships and wealth building)

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