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This is a very popular subject. 99.9% of men are aware women are attracted to bad boys, they just can’t resist them but really don’t know why. They think they can use logical reasoning to make women see why they shouldn’t fall in love with the bad boys.
100% of women are aware they can’t resist the bad boys even though they are not what they want.
Well in this article you’re going to find out exactly why women find bad boys attractive and irresistible.
If you’re a movie fanatic, you must have come across guys like Brad Pitt, James Dean, Daniel Craig popularly known as James Bond to Just name a few. Oh, I should add Kanye West; If you don’t know the others, you should know this Hollywood’s star.
If you look closely into the lives of these men, you’ll notice these guys have similar traits. Traits of the bad boy.
Research has revealed that these men possess the Dark Triad personality traits of narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellism. The hallmarks of narcissism include dominance, a sense of entitlement, and a grandiose self-view. They possess the willingness and ability to compete with one’s own sex and to repel mates shortly after intercourse.
Society in general and the media in particular LOVE to paint the Bad Boy as the black hole of masculinity. That is to say, that nothing can escape them… no woman can resist their magnetism, no Nice Guy is nice enough to keep a woman away from their pull.
So what exactly are the traits possessed by these bad boys women find irresistible?
1. Bad boys keep it real
Unlike nice guys who want to make sure they do everything right even to their detriment to make sure a woman is satisfied. Bad boys are blunt and are not afraid to cause some turbulence and frustration in a woman’s life.
Bad boys set boundaries, they wouldn’t give a woman the opportunity to walk all over them. They just know how to put a woman in her place without mixing their words or shading their actions.
3. Approval Seeking:
Unlike Nice guys who constantly seek approval and be told how much they are loved, the bad boy doesn’t care as he knows he’s awesome and there are tons of other women who want him. He cares about himself more than any other person.
Another reason why bad boys are so appealing is simple: they’re more of a challenge than a lot of nicer guys. Part of what makes the difference between sexual attraction and platonic friendship is behaviour. A guy with many female friends may well be a good guy with lots to recommend to him, but he’s missing that spark or oomph that catches people’s attention. More often than not, they tend to be agreeable and eager to please… almost too eager in some cases. Once again, the bad boy cares more about himself
Bad boys are mysterious. They just can’t be predicted which is exciting to women. Nice guys are predictable which is boring. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge equals “women prefer a bad boy.” They always bring the fun and excitement.
6. Bad Boys are Charming:
Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colours, the woman has fallen hard and has a tough time letting go. They just know how to put a woman on a roller coaster.
7. Some women have low self-esteem:
Women don’t feel comfortable with a man who treats them better than they treat themselves (They feel such a man is too genuine to be real). So, the bad boy is simply reinforces their negative belief. A nice guy only treats her in a way she’s not familiar with and that feels uncomfortable.
8. Women just want to be bleeped:
Women sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and get the job done under the sheets. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.
Women are genetically programmed to seek the strongest of males to mate with and continue procreation. Hence are drawn to the masculinity of the bad boy. He gives her the vibes that she will be protected. Bad boys believe their genes are so strong that they aren’t afraid of losing a woman because of bad behaviour. Nice guys’ fear of losing their woman sends the exact opposite message.
If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment and too soon and that’s scary to a woman.
11. Women like to feel needed:
Nice guys don’t usually need “to be fixed.” Bad boys usually do, so they become a “project.” Some women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.
12. Bad boys go for what they want without hesitation:
Stop me if you’ve heard this one before: a shy nice guy has a crush on an attractive woman. He spends weeks trying to tell if she likes him back. Then, after days of building up his courage, he makes his move.
That, of course, is when he discovers that she’s dating someone else. The problem for so many nice guys is that they are afraid of rejection. They refuse to make an approach unless they are 110% sure that they’ll succeed. They will dress it up in any number of excuses. They want to wait until the moment’s right, they don’t want to make it weird. But it all comes down to the same problem: they don’t want to take the risk of getting hurt from rejection.
There you have it guys, this is why women date the nice guys and sleep with the bad boys(flings). Women know they can’t have long-term relationships with the bad boy as it always leads or ends with heartbreaks and hurt. This is why they are now in search of the unicorns. Only 3% of the male population are unicorns. Those men who have been able to find the balance between the Nice Guy and The Bad Boy. In my group (Relationship and Dating matters with Jonathan Melody), I teach guys how to become a Unicorns and Not being seen or labelled a scum. Yet still, possess the bad boy traits. You can search on facebook to join others.
Truth is Women don’t like bad boys, they like what bad boys do.
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