[dropcap]You[/dropcap] finally found your way here? Then I must say nature just smiled on you. Are you short tempered? Yes, I mean you just snap at every offense?can’t maintain your emotional center? I was once like that and damn it’s no good thing bro. Not healthy for your relationships. And I want you to understand that as a man, your job is always to give to the world and make others feel good and safe. If you leave someone and they don’t feel better about themselves than they met you, then you’ve not played your role as a man.
Not being able to maintain your emotional center as a man can result in lots of issues and drama in your relationships. Your lady becomes bitchy, cold and distant, you start losing clients and money. And the fact that you want to keep your lady interested and happy is the more reason why you need to have your emotions in check always. Yes, amigo, you read that right; always.
See what Proverbs 25 vs 28 says “A person without self-control is like a breached city, one with no walls.”
And today I want to share with you tips on how to maintain your center as a man;
TIP 1: Speak Your Mind
I don’t mean start shouting or screaming; NO dude. Women do not like the screaming and all the emotional venting. You ain’t wiping winds, lay no gloves, no, just say what you think. In this way, they do not have to have the flight hormones kicking in. Acknowledge that you’re not happy with whatever the situation is and be clear, calm and loving about it. Not every man out there understands or knows this. Hence your lady will appreciate it. JUST COMMUNICATE LIKE AN ADULT.
Tip 2: Be yourself
Hey, don’t try to be honey when all your taste buds are covered in vinegar. Women are like cats; they can smell a rat from afar. Adapt your answers or responses to her attitude, not her personality? Women tend to understand men better than men do them and really, when you say something that pleases or when something comes from your own heart, they know. The preference is always one’s own center! Give your limits and needs (make clear what you can take and what you can’t take) And yes, you’re still very sweet, even if you indicate your limits.
Tip 3: Be happy
True happiness comes from within. If someone depends on you, that brings a lot heavier demand. Being with someone who is happy and well even happier in your presence is delicious. We want more, women do too! So don’t think she is responsible for your happiness. No man! Use the gym sometime and focus on your purpose, be ambitious. Set some goals and be passionate about them and stop expecting too much from her. Remember she got a life of her own.
Tip 6: Understand the difference between your Lady and your Buddies
There are things you discuss with your friends, and there are things you discuss with your lady. Women often think aloud. As they themselves increasingly understand how to accommodate the steam. If something bothers them, they first go to their girlfriends to get clear what they want before telling you ( i.e if they want to). And you have to respect this as a woman wouldn’t tell you everything. So stop digging into everything.
Tip 7: Enjoy the moment
Sincerely, why worry so much about what happens tomorrow when it’s possible you might not live to see tomorrow. I’m not saying you’re going to die. Of course, you will die; someday anyway lol. My point is Enjoy the NOW, be present in the NOW and take in all the good things the NOW has to offer. Happiness is contagious.
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From my heart to you
Author, Graphic Artist, Peek Performance Coach and Entrepreneur