The Miracle of Mothers
What We Can Learn From Mothers as Entrepreneurs
The doctor cleared his throat. “I’m sorry, but I have bad news.”
He paused, looking down at the floor. He looked back up at her. He started to say something and then stopped, looking back down at the floor.
That’s when Pat began to cry.
She’d argued with herself about even coming to the doctor’s office. Her baby was a year old, and he hadn’t started crawling yet. He tried, yes, dragging his legs behind him as he struggled to make it just a few feet on the floor, but it didn’t look right. Everyone told her that she was worrying over nothing, and maybe she was, but she told herself that she would take him to the doctor, just to be safe . . .
“Your son has a neuromuscular disorder called Spinal Muscular Atrophy,” the doctor said. “It’s a form of muscular dystrophy that primarily affects children.”
Pat was speechless. Everyone had told her she was silly. She had hoped she was wrong, prayed she was wrong, but still . . . she knew.
“What’s going to happen to him?” she managed to say.
“Where most children grow stronger as they get older, your son is going to get weaker. He’ll lose the ability to move. He’ll lose the ability to breathe on his own. And one day, he’ll catch an infection that will spread into his respiratory system, giving him severe pneumonia . . .”
She held up her hand to stop him. “You’re saying he is going to die?”
He nodded. “There are three types of SMA. Caught this early, your son almost certainly has Type I. Most children with Type I die of pneumonia before the age of two.” He paused. “I’m sorry.”
Pat looked up into his face and saw that he really was sorry. It made her angry. Not because of his pity, but because in this man’s eyes, her baby was already dead.
“Don’t be sorry,” Pat said, wiping tears away from her face. Her voice was suddenly very calm.”He isn’t going to die.”
“It’s important you understand the situation, Mrs. Morrow. The pneumonia . . . he won’t be able to fight it.”
“He won’t have to,” she said. “I’ll fight it for him.”
The miracle of mothers
Over the next 16 years, Jon had pneumonia 16 times. But he never died. It sounds strange to say it, but his mother wouldn’t let it happen.
She orchestrated a team of more than a dozen doctors. She slept in a chair beside him in the hospital, sometimes for as many as 30 days in a row. She pounded his chest and back every two hours to loosen the mucus, covering my chest and back with bruises.
Today, at 35 years old, Jon is one of the oldest people in the world with this type of SMA, and people say it’s a miracle. And I agree, it is. But the miracle isn’t just him. It’s a mother who fought like only a mother can to keep him alive.
By “alive,” I don’t mean just “not dead,” either. You’d think his mother would have been satisfied for him to live at home, tucked away from the world where she could protect him, but for her, that wasn’t living. She insisted that he be great.
When Jon's elementary school principal decided that disabled children didn’t have a place in her school, Jon's mom appealed to the school board and turned every board member’s life into a living hell for two years.
When Jon wanted to play basketball, she forced an astounded coach to reinvent the rules of the game so that Jon could be the “ball carrier” for the team, and no one could take the ball away. Not surprisingly, everyone wanted him on their team.
When Jon could no longer pick up a pencil, his mother arranged for honors students at local colleges to help him with his homework after school. Jon graduated at the age of 16, not only near the top of his class, but with college credit.
If you’re a mother, none of these things surprise you. Some mothers are weak, sure, but the vast majority fight for their children, especially when those children are defenseless. It’s not because they’re trying to be heroes. It’s because that’s their job.
And I think we all can learn something from mothers. Not to minimize what mothers do, but I’ve come to believe that our entrepreneurship journey is not all that different.
Fighting for your success
After losing my school fees to a scammer back in 2012, the only logical thing to do was to stay off anything online business. But you see, my tenacity wouldn't let me give up.
I wanted to achieve more.
You have to understand that at some point or another, life punches everyone in the face. the punch may be hard or soft. But definitely, it would come.
And your success is largely dependent on how you take and respond to that punch.
Will you suit up and walk the streets asking for transport fare because your job interviewer postponed the date of your non existing interview? or you'd roll on the floor, moaning and groaning because one of your arm is missing?
or you'd rock back on your heels and then keep going?
In 2013, I was a struggling br0ke student in delta state university. I wasn't ready to follow the status quo and I still remember using my allowee which was 10k to purchase a graphic course on how to design book covers and freelance on fiverr.
First 3 months I only made 80dollars which was equivalent to about 12k at the time. It was a total loss for me after purchasing the course, laptop and data for 3 months.
For many people, they would quit at this point but I refused to quit because I knew there was more.
A year later, I made a net of 1million naira.
Many will see this and start screaming, they have come again yadarada.
And I don't blame them.
It is only in Nigeria people think it is impossible to make 1m every single month legitimately. in case you don't know N1m is only $2850
That is not even up to the minimum monthly wage of people in several developed countries. Before I leave you, let me share a story of one of my mentors with you
Back in 2005, he attended a conference where the speaker introduced them to a great book called "Think & Grow Rich"
So, he spent the next 2 months looking for the book and he eventually found a copy in a bookstore. His name is Toyin Omotoso.
He bought it and read it from page to page
One of the main ideas that the author (late Napoleon Hill) passed is the fact that if you have a goal to make N1m a month, you should spend some time every day to imagine that you are in possession of that N1m.
The idea is:
If you can't see yourself in possession of the N1million naira, it will be difficult to get it in your hands.
Some people think this is rubbish but in my life, Toyin's life and many others, it has proven true over and over. Today, Toyin is a co founder of a multi-million naira company here in Nigeria and has written a book titled "How to turn yourself into a live breathing cash machine" And I want to share it with you today, all you have to do is click the button below to access the book.
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